Sexual Vocabulary


Masturbation means touching your own body to give yourself sexual gratification, bringing yourself to orgasm. Masturbation is normal and quite safe. Men and women often masturbate and it can be done on your own or with a partner. Knowing how your own body gets turned on can really help, if and when you do have sex with someone. If you know what turns you on then you can show the other person what works for you.


Orgasm is the peak or climax of sexual excitement. It usually involves pleasurable feelings and rhythmic contractions of the muscles in and around the genital area. For males, ejaculation usually happens at the same time as an orgasm. When a man ejaculates, the sperm rushes out along the tube in his penis and spurts out in 4 or 5 spasms. These spasms spread over all of his genitals and sometimes through the rest of his body. A woman’s orgasm involves a series of short spasms in the walls of the vagina which spread to the uterus/ womb and sometimes through the whole body.

Kissing/French kissing

Most sexual experiences will start with a kiss or at least include kissing at some point. Everyone has their own individual style of kissing; there are also many different ways of kissing. French kissing is when two people are kissing and putting their tongues in each other’s mouth.

Oral Sex

Oral sex is using the mouth or tongue to arouse the genitals of a sexual partner. Oral sex can be given and received by both men and women. Oral sex is a choice; some people love it and others dislike it. It is important that you are comfortable with what you do. Do not give oral sex if you have cold sores, as you could spread the herpes virus. Also, use flavoured condoms or dental dams (see contraception section).


Fondling means the touching of the private body parts of another person including the genitalia, anus, groin, breast, inner thigh, or buttocks for the purpose of sexual gratification. This can happen when people are fully clothed, under people’s clothes, or when people are naked.

Vaginal intercourse

This type of sex involves a man putting his erect penis inside a woman’s vagina and having sexual intercourse with various rhythmic movements until one or both of them climax (orgasm). Before this can happen, a woman needs to be sexually aroused so her vagina is moist. This creates a natural lubrication to allow the penis to be easily inserted.

Anal Sex

Anal sex is when the man puts his erect penis into the back passage (anus) of his partner. Lubrication should always be used when engaging in anal sex as the anus does not create any natural lubrication. Anal sex is often highly risky sex for the transmission of STI’s and it is very important to use a quality condom plus lubrication. Anal sex should not be used as a means to prevent pregnancy. When a man ejaculates inside the anus, the semen has nowhere to go so it slips back out of the anus. This can then find its way into the vagina.


When a man gets an erection, a small amount of fluid gets sent through the tube to the tip of the penis. This cleans out any stale urine or bacteria. This fluid is called Pre-cum and contains much sperm. Even before the man ejaculates, as soon as he has an erection the head of his penis will have sperm on the top via the pre-cum. People can get pregnant through Pre-cum. Caution should always be used.